We all get angry and it can be difficult to let go of, especially when we feel offended or justified but it is essential to our happiness to master the practice of letting things go. Someone cuts us off on our way to work, our inclination would likely be to honk, possibly flip the bird and perhaps even offer some choice words.
That extremely brief, insignificant occurrence may put us in a sour mood and derail our positive experience of the day. Somebody ate our last candy bar we had been saving for a night like this, the rage begins to build…wait…they drank our last Mountain Dew too!? We clench our fists and steam begins to come out of our ears.
The harsh words we desire to hurl fly through our minds, thoughts racing as we plan our next actions. We stew, we ruminate. Perhaps our anger further develops in complex ways over a short or long period of time or perhaps we impulsively said or did things in the heat of the moment we’ll later regret, or suffer consequences as a result of.
It’s extremely difficult to not react from anger, it pulls us sharply into emotion mind, territory where reason dare not tread. What if instead we could just let it go? This comes from creating the head state of wise mind, the synthesis between emotion mind and reasonable mind.
That thing that made us angry already occurred, a fixed part of the timeline that cannot be changed.
As the Buddha wisely pointed out, the embers of anger burn within us and bleed into other aspects of our lives, hardening and affecting us in ways we can’t realize.
Choosing not be angry does not mean we’re letting others win, quite the opposite in fact. By not getting angry we are keeping our power and becoming more patient and understanding which grants us access to peace. Without holding onto burning coals, not only can we still create solutions to solve triggering situations, we can solve them easier, more effectively and likely with better outcomes.
Let it go. Take a deep breath. Let it go.