Sometimes we may feel bitter, jealous, angry or threatened by the success of others. As we’re able to notice these feelings overtaking us it creates opportunities for growth and increased access to feelings of happiness and contentment.
Competitiveness can be a good thing, inspiring us to be the best we possibly can in the things we try our hands. Some seemingly are blessed with exceptional talents and abilities which we may cause us to feel distress about our inability to eclipse their greatness.
Sometimes with hard work and determination it’s possible to become as good or better. Sometimes it may seem no matter how passionately we accelerate our efforts we just can’t seem to make the cut.
The olympics, or professional sports in general I think are good examples to illustrate this point: there’s a finite number of positions on a team and the ones running the show want the best possible chance at winning.
Toward this end they will pick those they see with the greatest level or highest ceiling of talent. Many will not make the cut, not because they are not skilled and talented but because of the nature of competition and concept of finity.
It’s devastating to not be chosen, to be left out ,which is why inclusivity is so important but when it comes to competition, knowing that we tried our best, that we gave it our all takes some of the sting away.
Losing or not being chosen does not mean we are inferior or that the winners or ones chosen are superior, it just means on that particular day with that particular event we were bested, perhaps by skill, perhaps by luck, but we were simply bested.
It’s about the next event, the next game. The next team tryout, the next olympic trials. Maybe we’ll win or be chosen the next time, maybe not. Whatever the outcome we can choose to look at it as that’s what was meant to be because it’s what ended up ultimately happening.
If we don’t win, if we are not chosen, we can keep trying, keep endeavoring toward our dreams or instead dream up something new. We all have unique strengths and skills, we just need to find ours.
Even if we lose, we win. We overcame our fear of failure and gave it our best shot. Playing gives us a 100% shot of winning because winning is about playing. The only way to lose is not play.