We never know when we see our loved ones when the next time we see them will be, if even again in this life. All of us have times we’ve let our emotions get the best of us and said things in anger we didn’t mean or regret. Hopefully, when this happens we get to make amends, to apologize if necessary, ensuring an equilibrium of happiness and respect are reintegrated into our relationship.
Sometimes we don’t get the opportunity. Regret stabs into the heart with brutal force. Being a big person and swallowing our pride benefits both ourselves and our others. Saying “I love you” as often as possible and always when parting, even when angry with each other ensures we keep our positive equilibrium and have peace no kinds of resentments or solvable hard feelings stick.
Always planning for and expecting tomorrow lets us live into the future and stay hopeful. Living in a way of making our best choices we know will prevent regret helps us live our best lives. It protect us as much as power allows from haunting regrets and allows us to have sustainably happy relationships.
By appreciating and cherishing each moment to our maximum capacity we ensure as those moments become memories we can rest peacefully in that we’ve made our best choices and with our best selves enjoyed to the fullest.
If we are confronted by regret in the future, confronting and healing from it can help us get unstuck so we can move forward. If we have lost someone whom with there was unresolved conflict writing them a heartfelt letter expressing our sorrow and everything we wish we’d said can soften the weight and help it lift, but it is hard. We might not be able to physically deliver it to that person, but I believe, they will get to read our letter from home and hear our heart.