We all talk to ourselves every day, the content of which causes us to feel certain ways and take defining actions. We may not be able to control aspects of mental unwellness inside ourselves but we may have more significant sway over our manner of being than we give ourselves credit for.

We can’t control which thoughts pop into our heads but we do have choice in which thoughts we give power to. We are the observer of our thoughts, we are not our thoughts. Those thoughts we give power to though influence the way we perceive and experience life because they shape our reality.


We can likely agree we have a genuine desire to be kind to those we love. Kindness brings us closer together and forges bonds of friendship and goodwill. To see them happy brings us joy and comfort. Being soft when they are upset, forgiving when they have done wrong. Providing encouragement and support when they fail or lose hope.

These are ways we strive to be with those we love. The topics and words we use and focus on matter for outcome, of each interaction and the relationship’s well being for the long haul. What makes them deserving of our love? We look up to and adore and them, feel a sense of devotion.

We genuinely want to forgive them so we ought to genuinely want to create forgiveness for ourselves. We authentically wish to encourage and support them and recognize the benefits of being and remaining supportive during times of turmoil. We do ourselves high favors by also doing so for ourselves.

We also are deserving of our love and devotion. As the way we talk to those we love affects the shared reality of the relationship, the way we talk to ourself affects our reality.

If one finds it hard to change one’s self talk from negative and pessimistic to positive and optimistic saying and/or speaking affirmations can assist as well as gratitude journaling. These are things I recommend for anyone but especially those struggling with identity, depression, low self confidence or diminished self-esteem. They are powerful and enabling in transforming self talk.

10 thoughts on “Self Talk

  1. Interesting and colorful blog you have Brandon which appears to reflect your interesting and colorful life journey. I look forward to reading more of your posts as we seem to share some similar interests. Thank you also for the follow. 🙂 Warm wishes to you.

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    1. Thank you very much! Your blog is very colorful and interesting as well, and yes for sure. You’re welcome, I look forward to future interactions with you. Warm wishes also to you 🙂

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  2. ashok says:

    Good one 👏

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    1. Thank you very much 🙂

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  3. readinglovebirds says:

    This is such a beautifully true post. And as Beth says, an ongoing process.

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    1. Thank you very much ❤ Work in progress 🙂

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  4. losisthemost says:

    I agree with your opening statement – be kind to yourself in self-talk. We are own worst critics so let’s be our most compassionate coach.

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    1. Thank you for your validation! 🙂 Agreed! Thanks for commenting.

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  5. beth says:

    it is an ongoing process and one that takes a lot of practice and thought

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    1. Agreed! Thanks for your comment Beth 🙂

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